KIngdom Us Q & A
How does a Christian woman deal with a marriage...
How does a Christian woman deal with a marriage in which her Christian husband believes, or acts like he believes, that being the head of the household give him the right to come and go as he pleases, do what he pleases without consulting his wife and treats his wife and kid(s) as if their purpose is to serve him and follow his orders?
- Wow! Tough question… One in which there are no simple factors or answers. “Dealing with the marriage” starts with clear communication. It is what Jesus taught in Matthew 18:15-17 about navigating relationship where a Christian feels offended or sinned against. The protocol the Jesus set up should be the way to handle a situation of this magnitude.
- A good Christian couples/family counselor or coach should be able to bring some balance to their marriage. Unfortunately we do not have a licensed counselor on staff at N3C but we do have contacts of trusted counselors in this area.
(Pastor Darin) – What Bible verses do you refer to, to keep from sinking into depression from Parkinsons?
- One of the first scriptures I leaned into even before I was given a diagnosis is Hebrews 12:28 (NKJV) “Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom which cannot be shaken, let us have grace, by which we may serve God acceptably with reverence and godly fear.” I began to declare that the Kingdom would be expanded in me and drive out the tremor/shaking.
- Then after the diagnosis the first scripture that began to drive “hope” in me is Philippians 2:9–10 (NKJV) “Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth, and of those under the earth,”
- From there any scripture that builds “hope” in Father’s Divine health for His son’s/daughter’s is pertinent. I listened to a man that was totally healed of Parkinsons when he went through the Bible and listed every scripture that mentioned “hope”. Listing those scriptures are not the cure, but believing in “hope” sets us up for it. A good start for building our hope for healing is found in our N3C bookstore called 31 Days of Healing by Mark Brazee.
How do we honor our parents and our spouses when there are huge differences and obstacles and beliefs between us and them?
- Honor is a choice we have to make. Honor is given, not earned because it involves “value”. We do not honor because we are honored… that’s easy. We honor whether we are honored or not… that’s FAITH.
- Honor is a command whether to parents (Exodus 20:12, Ephesians 6:2) or spouses (Romans 12:10, 1 Peter 2:17, 1Peter 3:7). It is not about agreeing with them (“differences, obstacles, beliefs”). It’s about activating God’s command to honor. Setting God’s Word loose in your relationship through honor by FAITH allows God to move the mountains that seem huge.
(Pastor Darin) – How do we love those that are so hateful & violent against our President?
I am with you… It is difficult to deal with those so diametrically opposed to our President. First we have to realize that God loves them, even when they are dishonorable. He doesn’t look past their dishonor but loves beyond their dishonor and then He expects us to do the same. Love does not mean we have to agree and disagreement does not mean that we do not love. If we find ourselves surrounded by those who dishonor, feel free to assert your support for your President but don’t enter into conflict.
Why doesn’t (N3C) have a social gathering for single people, so they can get to know each other & network?
We learned years ago to do minimal things and do them with intentionality. So our social gatherings have intent on building the Kingdom (Life Connect ministry, Men’s 33, Ladies Propel). Single’s socials & networking is not in our wheelhouse for a specialty Kingdom building ministry. We feel that if single’s will get involved with the ministries we currently have, their single-life needs will be met.
Hearing From God
Specifically, how does God talk to you? Do you hear words with your ears or a conversation in your mind?
There are so many ways that God speaks to us. He’s always talking if we are mindful to be aware of that. 1 Kings 19 says, “still, small voice.” Roman says He can speak through nature. Whatever He uses, it’s not the method but our purpose to hear and hearing is what I would call an “impression” on our heart. He communicates to our spirit (inner-man, heart) John 12 says that people heard Him and thought that it “thundered”. They heard Him with their ears but it didn’t make an impression on their heart and missed what He said. Jesus heard every word because it spoke to His spirit. His voice is not a voice in our ears or in our mind but an impression on out heart.